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Dr Gary Chapman: Why understanding the 5 love languages can revolutionise your relationships

March 23, 2019

In his early years as a marriage counselor, Dr Gary Chapman noticed how couples would voice similar complaints regarding their marriage. One would say, "I feel like he doesn’t love me." The other would protest, "I don’t know what else to do! I’m doing everything I should be doing." Recognising a pattern, Dr Chapman asked himself, “When someone said, ‘I feel like my spouse doesn’t love me,’ what do they actually want?” Surprisingly, their answers fell into five categories, revealing a unique approach in how to effectively love another person. The result is a discovery of the 5 love languages - a concept which has helped millions of people across the world. On a recent trip to the UK, Dr Chapman sat down with Sam Hailes, editor of Premier Christianity magazine to explain what these languages are and how understanding them can help couples, parents and singles. Dr Chapman also unpacks his own background working as a pastor in the USA, and comments on what lessons the Church can learn from the current #MeToo moment. 

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